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Don't Be So Hard On Yourself!


"GET INTO THE HABIT OF ASKING YOURSELF 'DOES THIS SUPPORT THE LIFE I'M TRYING TO CREATE?'"



I am very hard on myself. When I do something, I either give it my all or hardly anything at all. With photography, I am constantly thinking of ways I can improve myself, from my settings to the poses I can suggest for my clients.


There are SO amazing photographers out there, and I can’t stop myself from looking at other photographer's work. I catch myself drooling over all these stunning images, then I immediately start nitpicking myself. Why are my images not this beautiful? What am I doing wrong? I always have a vision of what I am wanting my images to look like. I go to the shoot, I think I am getting all this great stuff then I go to upload the images and I think to myself, this is not what I envisioned. Was it my settings? Was it how I posed my subjects? Is it my editing skills, or lack thereof? It is so draining sometimes. I get frustrated with myself so easily.



Some days I feel like I did well...


Then I have days where I feel defeated...

(Camera setting issues, happens more than I'd like)




I am always being told by others how much they love my photos. It makes me feel good that they are happy with my work, but sadly it is never enough for me. I want to be better. I have to constantly remind myself that I am just getting started, and that everyone has to start somewhere. There is and always will be room to grow.





I also tell myself: remember why you are doing this.


I didn’t start doing photography to be the best of the best, or to keep up with the trends. I did it because I truly enjoyed it, ever since I was a kid. I loved capturing moments, because once you snap that photo that is it. That photo represents that person in that exact time, that exact moment in their life. Then when I became a mom, I wanted nice photos of my kids to document them in that moment in time, so that later on in life, when I look at the photos, it would bring back those memories.


Then it progressed to taking photos of friends and eventually me realizing this is what I have always wanted to do. I love capturing memories for myself, and now my clients, to look back on. Time moves so fast, it’s nice to be able to have photographs to look at to remember those special times in your life.












If you are reading this and can relate to never feeling good enough, then I urge you to try to STOP IT.


Everyone is different. Everyone has his/her own tastes. Just because your photos don't look like those that you highly admire, doesn't mean that you are a failure. Stay true to yourself. Do what makes you happy and try your best not to compare yourself to others, because it will make you feel like you are falling down that rabbit hole in Wonderland.


Let's all be kind to one another, and lift each other up! We are all our own unique artists.


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